Getting a Job With Hearing Loss

Hello Everyone

Forget it.  That’s my answer.  There is no way that I can mention my hearing when I apply for a job.  During this recession I have applied for dozens.  The ones where I have tried to get in via a disability quota have received a polite refusal from a higher level.  So the Line Manager has replied.  Companies of any size cannot cope with a hearing loss because their main function is to have their staff communicate with the customer.  It is a fundamental misconception of hearing loss that says everyone who has it must have no hearing.

Hearing aids have solved the hearing issue.  Private ones enable your hearing; such a simple statement yet they really do work.  Conversation is now possible.  I’m in the conversation rather than always being on the back foot and on the fringes of groups.  I would be ready to run if I didn’t understand.  I succumbed to buying hearing-aids and they now provide protection when out.  The National Health Service ones are not far behind thanks to competition between the big hearing-aid companies to be awarded the contract to supply the UK public with hearing-aids.  The way forward for the NHS is to provide smaller moulds.  They will be individual moulds, not generic.  Those ones are for mild hearing loss.

Anyway I still haven’t found a regular-paid job.  I make it to interview stage and then find the sound is bouncing off hard tables, laminate flooring and the walls or the Panel of interviewers is sitting with their backs to a window.  It’s impossible to lipread faces in shadow.  I did ask one guy to close the blinds.  Did that lose me the job?  It’s impossible to say.  Still I have another interview next week.  Wish me luck.

Would you mention your hearing loss at interview?

I really would like to know.

Whenever I ask for feedback they tell me I’m better suited to something else  At the British Heart Foundation I was better suited to their retail arm, i.e., selling than I was to their Assistant Store Manager role.  Giving up on job hunting is not an option; I need to work.

Any input or suggestions you have, would be gratefully received.




Domain names – Talktinnitus – Available

Hi Everyone

I’m releasing two domain names.  The release date is 25 June 2014.  The domains are:

They will be available from

I’m told that most released domain names are re-registered within 24 hours of being cancelled. 

You can be a 123-reg customer or a Webfusion customer.  If you want one or both, this email is an attempt to give you first refusal.  If you need any input from me, let me know.  I would rather an interested person had them than someone just wanting to make money.

I hope all is well in your world.


Debbie Jeffrey


Does Meditation Help Tinnitus

A man I met, told me that on the point of waking up, he had no tinnitus.  The moment he came fully awake, the tinnitus kicked in.

How do we prolong that moment of no noise

I am learning to meditate.  The basics are quick and easy, yet you can practise for a lifetime.

the first part shows you how to relax the muscles of the face.  You think about each part and consciously think about relaxing it.  Head over to Vishen Lakhiani of   He aims to reach a billion people with his teaching within 10 years and gives a free introduction with guidance on the above.

It does not matter if it takes you a month to relax your head through meditation.  You have the rest of your life.  This is just a moment.

It works for me.  I have found that the tinnitus does not kick in while I am consciously trying to relax.  Is it because my brain is distracted?  Or conversely, is it because concentration has switched from the tinnitus to something else?  Your opinion matters to tinnitus experts. 

If meditation works for you, please tell your Audiologist.  Spread the word.  Reply here.

May you prolong the moment

Debbie Jeffrey


Orange (CCL Hearing Wellbeing 2012)

New hearing-aids

Hi Everyone


I’ve got new hearing-aids from Siemens. I bought them during a turbulent period when I was going to shoot a short film. With three guys. They would all talk at once, wouldn’t they?


My head would spin. I had determined to buy new hearing-aids. They were on an emergency setting as I had silt in the river, also known as earwax. Charmed.


“Hello, can I look in your ears?”


This would normally be an invitation to scarper, but the chances are that he or she is a Hearing-Aid Audiologist. I have the lady version, who speaks my language, I hope.


Ten days later my ears were wax-free, if that is the term.  Now we could see what they were really like.


These hearing-aids have receptors in the tips. They aren’t the plastic half-open moulds that I had two years ago and they aren’t the ‘tulip’ tips that I’ve had until now. With the latter, I couldn’t hear because every time my head moved, they stopped working. I’m having the same problem with these. I shall have to find some people to talk to, so that I can test it properly.


This is what I want from a hearing-aid:


• I want them to automatically re-adjust to people speaking loudly or softly.


• I also need a dampener on them, to alleviate loud noises.


• I don’t want to hear the conversation of the people behind me. Just sounds will be enough to warn me of a lorry etc.


I want a conversation in a group.  I’ve just heard of Book Club locally.


Can you think of anything else?


Have a great  hearing week




Debbie Jeffrey


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Thunder Down Your Hearing-Aids

A clap of thunder is loud to most people with ordinary hearing.   It’s a useful comparison when people think they can be loud and it doesn’t matter, because you can’t hear.  Who knows whether it makes up after an argument or saves a message?  If it works, use it, if it doesn’t, find another way.

I have brand new hearing-aids, which I bought to hear at an event.  More about that in another blog, as buying hearing-aids is a big step for me. 

I couldn’t hear, needed to hear six guys who talk at once, so found a really kind Hearing Aid Audiologist and have been grateful ever since. 

A snag is that  they have had to be increased to maximum, as I have ‘silt in the river’, or earwax domination to the rest of us.  Does it have a deeper role in hearing, or is it just earwax? I have to get on with sorting it out, as I can’t be referred to NHS Audiology in my new place until I have a GP.  The NHS is a system and moves slowly but will there in the end.  So the Nurse informed me.

“You expect too much.”

My partner used to say. 

“Impatient and want things now,”  my mother says.

Both people speak the truth; it’s just hard to hear and consider.  Is there anything about your hearing that people hate?  Better they tell you, right?   

My views on suction of the ears to get rid of earwax are well-known to anyone unfortunate enough to ask.  However, as is usual with fads, it takes a while to disappear.  What’s the alternative?  Good point.  Back to an expert getting rid of it.  Usually it’s the local Nurse who has experience in getting rid of everything.  In Germany, France, Switzerland, i..e, Europe, you see a Consultant.  There is not the case here..


Let’s all talk to hearing professionals about wax?  @First I have to be cheltereed bu bocksk underd=water


Have a great week.







Debboe keffreu


Want To Wear Hearing-Aids When You Are Sick In Hospital?

Hi Everyone

Short but not sweet –

You cannot wear hearing-aids when you are sick.  However you look at it, they are still lumps of plastic in your ears and therefore do not move in the same way as human flesh.  Any static object in a soft place hurts it after a while.  If other places in the body are hurting, this is the last thing you need!

We need to connect with a hearing loop in the ward.  How do we make the ear do that?  We don’t.  Lateral thinking is needed in the same way that Action on Hearing Loss found a way to wake up people with a hearing issue.  They held a competition.  One of the winners designed a ring that vibrated when the alarm went off.  Ingenious.  It has been put into production.

Someone once told me that a shaker in the bed with her did not wake her although next door could hear it clearly!  Maybe this device would work for her.  Thanks to the old Disability Living Allowance, she now has a hearing dog who will paw at her until she wakes.   As my family say:

“It would need a thermo-nuclear device to wake you up.”

Not where I live now, but that’s another story.

I think that the object starts to fossilise the flesh.  That deteriorates the hearing and you need stronger hearing-aids.  Is anyone listening (irony intended)?


This time I’m asking for your hearing advice

Hi, I have that age-old don’t want to bother people feeling. I thought my hearing was down due to stress from moving house. It’s the hearing-aids. I lost one in the move and have been using an old one. Yes, stupid idea and one I tell everyone not to do. Note to self: take own advice.

With hearing-aids i don’t let anything stand in my way. At least this is the attitude and it works most of the time.

On Friday a lady I met, also with a hearing issue, was concerned for me. So I registered with the local Doctor. In fact they just gave me a form which I’ll return on Monday. The appointment is for Tuesday … the day I’m shooting a film. On Monday I may need to be in London in the evening.

Hearing is so fundamental. Should I whip into the local independent Audiologist and risk being ripped off because he/she thinks I know nothing? Or go into the local Audiology Department of the local hospital. I could spend five hours there and get nowhere. Everything I do comes back to the hearing issue. Have you got any ideas about what I can do?



Debbie Jeffrey

Hearing – Can We Talk About It?


As I went to open a sash window, a couple of weeks ago, I saw a young guy, about 20 years old, tanding on the ridge of a roof.   From where I was standing, I could not see how wide the ridge was, but two rooves along, there was a seagull standing on it.

He walked along and wobbled.  My mothering heart leapt into crisis mode.    That ridge did have a long bar on top but still no clue as to how deep it was, a slope of tiles and then a small wall.  It did not bear thinking about and I acted on a first thought.  I yanked open the window and shouted across the square:

“Can we talk about it?”

This may be the daftest thing imaginable to say because I was at least forty metres from him and slightly lower.  There was no way that I could hurtle down the stairs, run across the square and then be faced with an entry system.  Mine has a number.  So I called the police.  They were very prompt, but apparently they tried to get someone to answer the doorbell!  Excuse me?  That’s far too slow.  I only learnt this when they came up to me to ask for details.

After the shout, the young man turned and went to a chimney braest perpendicular to me.   He seemed to sit down.   I had to leave the police to find a way up to that roof.  I hope they did; they seemed competent.

The point of telling the story is that I think the young man heard me.  This is a similar happening to the previous post where sound appears to travel across three-sided objects.  In this case it is a three-sided period building with a garden of trees in the middle.  What is it about the construction that meant he could hear me?  It is not important whether he could hear the actual words, although he did appear to listen, because he stopped and went to lean or sit against the chimney breast.  I want to understand how the sound travels.  Maybe knowledge of it will inspire other thinkers and inventors in other fields.

Do we need an Architect to explain it or a Sound Technician or both?Image

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Temporary Loss of Hearing Leads to Insight

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Age-standardised disability-adjusted life year (DALY) rates from Hearing loss (adult onset) by country (per 100,000 inhabitants). (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Hello there

My friend lost her hearing on one side for a week.

Her first reaction was frustration.  Yes, we’ve been there.

She said that she was ashamed of being irritable and even jealous that everyone else could hear but she could not.

Her second thought was of me and how frustrating my life must be.

“Actually, no, I’ve learnt to ride over that.”

That is what this blog is all about: ways to slide gracefully over it.  Denial of it just builds frustration.

Be happy.  Happy hearing and have a great week.

Debbie Jeffrey

‘Join That Conversation’ – the one you’ve been meaning to join but didn’t dare.